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The Least of All Possible Mistakes by rageprufrock

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Jun. 13th, 2014 | 07:26 am
posted by: jane_elliot in epic_rants

Picture this:

A police officer brings his wife to the Christmas Party at his local police station. There, he finds out that she's been cheating on him. Enraged, he hauls back and punches her, right in front of all of his colleagues. The other officers immediately gather around the officer and drag him off to offer him alcohol and commiserate about how awful his wife is. Meanwhile, the wife is left to pick herself up and leave, with no charges ever being filed.

If you're anything like me, reading that scenario fills you with fury. How can a man possibly hit his spouse in a room full of police officers and not even be taken into custody? How is he not sitting in a jail cell ten seconds later? What the fuck is wrong with this police station?

Well, fair warning before you read this story: the above scenario is exactly what happens. The only difference? The police officer happens to be a woman and, somehow, that's supposed to make everything okay.

Here's the truth: that does *not* make everything okay. Partner violence is *never* okay, no matter who is doing the hitting and who is the one being hit. And it's *especially* not okay when the one doing the hitting is the one who is supposed to be the one protecting people from being hit.

A female police officer hitting her husband is not laudable. It is not a "you go girl" moment. It is, in fact, domestic violence of the worst sort, the kind of violence that leaves a victim without any protection or support.

(Yes, domestic violence does happen to men. It's not reported often, though, because of this exact issue.)

While many people would say it's never okay for a man to hit a woman, plenty people seem to think it's okay for a woman to hit a man. Not only is this double standard offensive, but it's actually dangerous, because it leads to real life social biases that result in men accepting their abuse, even thinking it's acceptable.

And that? Is completely unacceptable.

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from: yuidirnt
date: Jun. 13th, 2014 03:03 pm (UTC)

Midway through the entry I was ready to comment about how the fact that a man did the hitting changed nothing, a woman doing it would have been awful all the same. And unless the whole scene was supposed to display how much of amoral douchebags those guys all were, I can't imagine the rest if this fanfiction being a decent read.

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from: jane_elliot
date: Jun. 13th, 2014 03:09 pm (UTC)

What I find most appalling is that this story has nearly 4000 kudos. 4000! And while I doubt any one of those 4000 people say that they support domestic violence, they didn't seem to mind the domestic violence in this story.

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from: enderwiggin24
date: Jun. 19th, 2014 08:17 pm (UTC)

I havent read the story you are ranting about here, and I doubt, i will, because outside of mycroft being in an incesty relationship with sherlock, i am not that much interested in his character in fics.

but , just in case, i cannot imagine you not seeing the analogy , but this domestic violence thing, I am not sure, if its big or small in that story, but isnt it the same as rape in fanfic?
if pru would write some hyperviolent rape fic, probably she would get 10000 kudos, because rape fics are a major kink of female humankind since the existence of fanfic, and i doubt, lots of those woman, who likes to read rape fics, are supporting rape.
so what, many of them/us like to read some fics with domestic violence (with what it seems role reversal here, a woman hitting a man) without supporting said violence.

if authors and readers would treat all problematic kinks in safe, sound and logical and reasonable ways in fanfics, i doubt we would have lots of fics.

i know you called this place your rant place, so you dont have to sound reasonable or logical , because this is your safe place to express your concerns.
I just thought, you were around fandom longer, to be expressing such appallment over something like this.

and now i am heading over to epic recs :)

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